Maybe you’re unschooling.
Maybe you’re exploring self-directed learning.
Maybe your kid is still in school - because of life circumstances - but you feel deeply drawn to unschooling principles and values.
You want something different for your family.
More trust.
More freedom.
More connection.
More joy.
But wanting this — and living it in everyday moments — can feel very different.
School teaches more than subjects.
It trains our bodies to live with:
So even when you believe deeply in trust and autonomy…
those patterns can still show up.
In your tone.
In your reactions.
In the moments when fear takes over.
Even when you believe deeply in trust and autonomy, experiences like these can still show up.
A moment of uncertainty appears.
And then a wave of panic arises.
You catch yourself thinking: Am I doing this right?
You know the kind of parent you want to be… but in the moment you find yourself reacting instead of responding.
When things feel uncertain, urgency takes over.
You find yourself comparing your child to others — and everything starts to feel like it’s not enough.
Later, you’re lying in bed at 2am wondering:
What if I’m failing my kids?
What if they won’t succeed?
You’ve read the books.
You know the ideas.
You may even have tools.
But when you’re tired or overwhelmed, it can feel like all of it disappears.
Afterwards you look back and think: Why do I keep doing that?
Part of you wonders: When is this actually going to change?
Sometimes your nervous system takes over — you feel reactive, frozen, or completely overwhelmed.
A quiet voice inside whispers: I thought I would be further along by now.
You believe learning doesn’t have to look like school… but sometimes fear still tells you it should.
And before you know it, your desire to live and parent differently gets hijacked by that fear.
Nothing is wrong with you.
These reactions are patterns many of us learned inside systems like school — systems built on pressure, performance, and control.
Fear → self-doubt → pressure → disconnection
Not because you don’t care.
Because most of us were shaped inside systems that trained urgency, comparison, and performance.
So even when you believe deeply in trust and autonomy, those patterns can still show up.
That’s the deeper work of deschooling.
Deschooling isn’t only about changing how we think about kids' learning.
It’s also about untangling the patterns school created in you.
Not just understanding trust.
Embodying it.
Not just questioning the system.
Healing the ways it shaped how you relate to your children — and to yourself.
Deeply Deschooling is an intimate, facilitated small-group coaching container where you bring the real moments from your life and unconventional parenting path — the fears, the triggers, the doubts — and we explore them together.
This isn’t a course about unschooling.
This work begins with recognizing how school conditioning still lives in your nervous system, your reactions, and your relationships.
From there, we begin the process of healing and unlearning those patterns — and then move into learning how to respond and show up differently.
Over four months we meet for 8 live sessions in a small cohort.
The layers of this work include:
This work isn’t about fixing parenting challenges.
It’s about expanding our capacity to meet those moments with awareness, presence, and choice.
Over time, many parents experience something powerful:
Fear is no longer in the driver’s seat. Instead of reacting from old conditioning, they find themselves pausing, seeing more clearly what’s happening, and responding in ways that align with the relationship they want to build.
Deeply Deschooling is supported between calls so the work can integrate into daily life. Between sessions you’ll have:
Because transformation happens in relationship, you’ll be paired with another participant to meet regularly between sessions. These conversations help integrate what you’re learning and create ongoing support. You also get access to a Community place to bring questions and reflections between calls.
"The Deschooling Support Kit" helps you recognize the limiting beliefs, fears, and outside pressure that often make parents doubt themselves or feel like they’re “doing it wrong.” Alongside it, the "Six Keys for Building Relationship with Kids" gives you concrete tools for those moments when your nervous system gets hijacked..
Because many parents know the moment: you want connection, but when stress hits, old patterns take over. This course helps you understand why that happens — and gives you practical tools to listen, speak, set boundaries, and repair in ways that build trust even when your nervous system is overwhelmed.
As you arrive into Deeply Deschooling, you might be feeling:
unsure you’re making the right choice
afraid you’re failing your kids
overwhelmed by the pressure of walking a different path
stuck in fear and self-doubt
And you leave this container noticing shifts like:
trusting your kids more deeply
trusting yourself more fully
responding with presence instead of urgency
leaning into connection instead of control
feeling grounded in your values rather than fear
experiencing more joy and curiosity in your parenting
feeling more resourced in hard moments
feeling supported by a community that understands
Instead of constantly questioning yourself, you may begin to feel something quieter but powerful: confidence in your path.
Many parents also discover something unexpected: that deschooling is not only about education.
It’s also about healing how we were taught to relate to ourselves and others.
Deeply Deschooling is for parents who are:
Some participants are unschooling.
Others are transitioning out of school.
And some, because of life circumstances, are parenting consciously while navigating school systems.
What they share is a desire to live differently with their children.
Deeply Deschooling is facilitated by Becka Koritz and Sari González, educators and unschooling parents who have spent decades supporting families and learning communities rooted in trust and self-directed learning.
Our work draws on practices including:
But the deepest learning often comes from the community itself — parents witnessing each other and realizing they’re not alone.
Somatic and nervous system practices
Help parents recognize when they are becoming reactive and learn ways to regulate their nervous systems so they can respond more calmly.
Family Constellation work
Helps reveal hidden family or systemic patterns that influence how we parent and relate to our kids.
SenseThinking and constellation-based practices
Help people access deeper insight and awareness beyond analytical thinking.
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)
A tapping practice that helps release emotional stress and shift limiting beliefs stored in the body.
Tarot mirroring
Offer symbolic reflection that can help people see patterns and possibilities in their lives from a new perspective.
“Before Deeply Deschooling, I was trapped in fear - terrified that I was making horrible decisions about my children’s education and would spend the rest of my life regretting them. Now? I know I’m on the right path. Deeply Deschooling helped me get crystal clear on why we are unschooling. I no longer need certainty about the future, because I’m grounded in the certainty of my values and intuition. This program gave me the courage to stop dancing around the edges and finally claim unschooling. I’m no longer in the contemplative phase - I’ve taken the dive. And it’s revolutionary. Sari and Becka have been the midwives of our unschooling lives. They’ve asked the hard questions with tremendous tenderness, always holding space for us as parents while centering the needs of our children. Their guidance is fierce, vulnerable, deeply human - and filled with love. The container they created was absolutely magical. From the beginning, our group felt held by a brave, intimate community of parents. That feeling of being truly seen helped me trust my own knowing. This program didn’t just give me tools - it gave me the support I needed to use them. In our family, we’ve stopped swinging wildly between rigid control and chaos. We’ve learned to slow down, to pause before reacting, to stay curious instead of judgmental. And most importantly, I’ve worked hard to make sure fear is no longer in the driver’s seat. The biggest takeaway for me? Community is everything. When I’m supported by voices I trust, I can trust myself and my kids more fully. Deeply Deschooling has helped me meet one of the most important challenges of my life with my values intact - with courage, with presence, and with valor. From the top, middle, and bottom of my heart: thank you.”
Amanda
“What I loved about this program is that no matter how long you've been on the journey of deschooling, this program can expand your understanding and challenge you to evaluate even more how our world oppresses young people. Becka and Sari bring their wealth of knowledge and expertise to facilitate these sessions with vulnerability and intentionality. I have my own children and also work in an SDE space and this program was beneficial for me in thinking about my role in both realms. I feel like Deeply Deschooling has given me more tools and understanding of my own triggers and my childhood. All the young people in my care will be affected by my ability to think better about myself and the young people as we live life together!”
Michelle
“Before Deeply Deschooling I was struggling with trusting the self-directed education process; not fully understanding the extent of deschooling; lacking in community/people to talk with around it. Hearing others' perspectives has been really helpful, as well as the always deep and pertinent insights from Sari and Becka. I feel more grounded in this space and in my body in relation to this work. The specific tools we worked with around connecting somatically to important words/concepts was especially meaningful and helpful. I now feel like I have a stronger commitment and awareness of trusting this process in my body.”
Rosemary
“Before joining the Deeply Deschooling program, I struggled with pushing myself and my son to do too much - trying to do everything, all at once. This space helped me see and accept the wisdom of letting go. It reminded me that parenting isn’t just about responsibility - it’s also an invitation to be curious and joyful. Since March, I’ve become more confident in setting boundaries and giving myself the space I need. That shift has made it easier for me to support my son when things don’t go as planned. I can now process my emotions in a way that feels healthier for both of us. One of the most important things I take away from this program is the experience of being in a space where I don’t have to mask - where I can be vulnerable without fear of being targeted. Becka and Sari guide with so much love and openness. The support they provide is truly amazing. This program has helped me through one of the most challenging years of my life. There isn’t one single story I can point to - rather, it’s the cumulative impact. The friendships, the reflection, the support - they’ve helped me see where I am and how I’m growing. I’ve started interacting differently with my family of origin, and I now feel more rooted in appreciation and growth. My curiosity and courage have been nurtured, and in turn, my family is reaping the rewards. I’m so grateful for this program. Thank you for creating this beautiful garden - and for showing us how to plant and tend to our own. Your transparency, laughter, and grace are a gift.”
Anonymous
“I feel both grateful for and extremely satisfied with all the support I've received during the Deeply Deschooling program. It's an experience that have left me feeling fully alive, totally connected to myself and everyone else around me. I'm so grateful to finally have had the opportunity to experience true vulnerability, authenticity, curiosity, diversion, creativity and infinite play! Thank you Sari and Becka for guiding me in my process and showing me how to become free.”
Daniela
“I feel so incredibly grateful for all of the things I've learned from you and all the support I've gotten through the Deeply Deschooling coaching program. It has been tremendously helpful. I can see where I used to be, and where I am now, and it's such a different place. The deschooling work is so radical and requires so much courage that if I hadn't had all that support, I wouldn't have been in a good place right now. But I am because of everything I've learned! Thank you so much!”
Liz
Parent/ caregiver groups and communities ready to unlearn coercion, rebuild trust, and create homes and cultures where kids’ autonomy can thrive.
We meet online for 8 live sessions across 4 months. Each session blends reflection, small-group practice, and 1:2 coaching. Between sessions, you’ll meet your partner for mutual support.
Clarity, confidence, and trust in yourself and your kids. A more peaceful home dynamic. And the grounding to live a school-free life rooted in connection, not control.
We guide, hold, and reflect — offering both concrete tools and deep witnessing. This is shared work, done in community, held with care.
Our approach is flexible and responsive to each group. We draw from a blend of modalities that support emotional, relational, and systemic healing — such as Resonance Practice, Sense Thinking, Family Constellations, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), and Tarot.
Not every tool will be used in every cohort. We listen closely to what emerges and integrate the practices that best serve the group’s process. What unites them all is their shared purpose: helping adults release old conditioning, build embodied trust, and reconnect with their own inner guidance.
Born in Sweden and shaped by the Montessori philosophy, she has lived in Mexico since 2003, where she founded two Waldorf initiatives and Explora, Mexico’s first Agile Learning Center.
Her work through Radical Learning is rooted in youth liberation and the belief that every child deserves to grow in trust, consent, and belonging. Becka now devotes her time to coaching, training, and creating resources for families walking a self-directed path.
Drawing from Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) and Tarot as tools for emotional release, reflection, and insight, she supports adults in integrating their inner healing with their relationships to children and learning.
She’s the mama of a neurodivergent young adult unschooler who continues to remind her that freedom and love are learned — together.
Becka’s gift lies in connecting the dots and translating deep insight into everyday practice. Her clarity and compassion help others see beyond fear and remember what freedom feels like.
She’s the co-founder of Radical Learning and the director of Explora Agile Learning Community in Mexico — a space built on consent, autonomy, and belonging.
Before stepping into this work, Sari left the corporate world to dedicate herself fully to transforming education from the inside out. Her journey has included leadership in programs like Summer Search, Farm School NYC, and Cottonwood NYC, all rooted in community, equity, and youth voice.
An unschooling mama, educator, and facilitator trainer, Sari brings a rare blend of clarity, practicality, and heart. Her approach weaves together Family Constellation, SenseThinking, and Resonance Practice — modalities that help adults cultivate awareness, attunement, and intentional culture in their homes and learning spaces.
Sari is a fierce defender young people’s freedom — a grounded, compassionate communicator who knows how to turn conflict into connection and boundaries into love.
Deeply Deschooling offers a pathway to the Self-Directed Education (SDE) Youth Rights Accreditation - an international recognition for educational spaces that champion human rights, with a focus on the rights of young people.
This accreditation provides recognition that bridges youth-centered methodologies with conventionally accepted educational frameworks. It supports the sustainable growth of youth rights education, enhances legal recognition, and amplifies respect for this global movement rooted in fostering independent, responsible, and fulfilled young people.
Interested in pursuing accreditation? Read more here.
